It is the time for New Year’s resolutions! This is so exciting, a new season filled with potential and promise. A new leaf, blank for our brush strokes, that we can form any way we want. What feels like fresh time, a universal new beginning, carries the weight and energy that only we can limit! I always get really pumped to mold my fitness, time management, and spirituality into something better in the new year. But then, life happens. Life goes on. Everything I had to do before still must be done, and usually more still. I feel this even more keenly now as a mother with little ones. How can I possibly outsmart the overwhelm and achieve new goals in addition to meeting all of my current expectations?
Although this struggle is still one I will be fighting alongside you, as a busy and tired -oh, so, so tired- mama, I do have a few strategies and suggestions. These are some motivational and organizational concepts which have helped me conquer goals and habits in the past. As you nurture and grow your life, you pick up a few tips along the way, right? I would love to hear your tips and input, so please share below! Let’s connect and support each other.
- Dig Deep Those awesome New Year’s resolutions are going to require effort. Sweat, endurance, discipline, or all three. No precious goal was easily achieved or cheaply bought, right? At first when you begin, and in the middle of the challenges when you think you have no more effort to give, dig deep. All of us have more and have the resolve within us, we just have to reach there and put our extra mettle to use. We want these resolutions to become a part of our life, so we put our hands in the grit of effort and we DIG. How much do you want it? Apply that thirst to the sweat, and turn it into power.
- Think Ahead Plan out what you want to achieve. Then have a look at your upcoming schedule and lifestyle, especially the big events. Decide how you will fit the schedule and your goals together. What if you still lose track or “fall behind”? Decide what you will do if or when that happens! The more answers you can give yourself now, the simpler it will be to keep these resolutions even as life inevitably happens around you. You probably can’t account for every single possibility, so keep that in mind and don’t lose any sleep over it. It’s also good for me to acknowledge where I’ll have the most difficulty with my resolutions, and to be honest and plan for my shortfalls in the process of meeting my ambitions.
- Attack & Nurture This post obviously is all about how to slay your New Year’s resolutions. Surprisingly, I have found that you may be better of alternating slaying and nurturing. This is a simple concept, avoid burnout and set up for long-term success by not charging in full-on at 100% every minute. But the attack has to happen. Face and challenge your resolution as hard as you can, with that drive, and gain as much strength and progress as you can. Then take an intentional, reflective “break”, to evaluate, reflect, and adjust if needed, really nurturing the goal and the process. Importantly, have a specific time set to step away from the reflection and dive back into the challenge.
- Be Yourself Although the goals set for this new year probably have something to do with changing our habits or aspects of ourselves, our person, our true self, is still here, for better or worse. Tackling the resolutions of the new year in a way that nurtures, enhances, and sculpts our true self is a method to success. The most effective way to reshape a habit or aspect we have is to work from the inside out. Pray about it, test it out, and be sure it cares for the person you are as you change what you need to. If you over-think everything, like I do, try this: without thinking about it, ask yourself, “How should I achieve this goal?” Your first, natural answer is probably a good starting point to effectively conquer your goal.
- Be Kind To your family, friends, and yourself too, always be kind in relation to these goals. If something doesn’t go perfectly or on schedule, we can forgive ourselves and avoid blaming others. Our nature to love is the most important, and the goals in the present and on the horizon can mesh with and enhance this part of us. We just have to treat the process with a bit of kindness. I have learned this the hard way, and want to inscribe “Be Kind” on this rock I stumbled over. The results of charity resound throughout and well beyond our accomplishments.
- Use The Small Failures to Your Advantage This may sound a little backwards or ridiculous, but we have all had that failure (or several) that eventually led to a better outcome, an unexpected success. Messing up in the process of achieving a difficult goal is not only natural but useful. This is our time to show them what we are made of. Using our low points to spring from is a tool that helps us stay motivated and keep the spark of hope in our struggles. Maintaining this outlook can be difficult, and sometimes takes a lot of effort (seriously alot!) but strengthens our resolutions and ourselves.
- Be Willing to Accept Help from Others This is one of the hardest things to do, surprisingly! I always grumble and tell myself I will do it myself. That works out sometimes, but sometimes not! Accepting help and true support from others is the ultimate fulfillment of our goals within our community. Our community builds our lives, and the victory over our new year’s resolutions is a sweet one when it is shared with those who helped us.
- Pray This keeps me from going to crazy with my goals and plans. Prayer puts my goals, in this year, within this world, into perspective. I can remember where the desire for my resolutions comes from and where I am on my journey. If we’re tired, or drained, or losing interest, prayer is a good place to return to. A home for our soul whether wandering or just exhausted. If this sounds familiar, here is a passage of the Bible I will be turning to this year as I tackle my resolutions:
but those who hope in the Lord
will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint. ~Isaiah 40:31
So as we fearlessly charge and crush our resolutions for the new year, I hope a few of these ideas ring true for you and help you achieve your goals. I will be here, working on my resolutions, and happy to chat and exchange ideas to support each other! Feel free to e-mail or leave comments below, sharing your ideas about how to slay your New Year’s resolutions!
Let’s win this fight!